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Kids With Wings, Moms With Wings 

Screen Shot 2015-07-24 at 9.41.32 AMI believe that kids are taught most of their fears. If mom is scared of bugs, then more than likely so are the kids. I am sure we all know a big giant guy who runs from tiny spiders. His momma taught him that.

I believe that if you practice things and get familiar with things early in life, they are not so scary when you grow up.

This is important because most people do not succeed financially or emotionally if they are afraid to take risks, and step out into unfamiliar territory.

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Yes You Can

By: Mia L. Hazlett

6/29/15

There was this night that come about in my marriage when my husband and I separated. I was devastated. The only thing that came to mind was, how am I going to do this by myself? “This”, was how do I raise my daughters alone. I automatically put myself in every stereotypical statistical category and felt hopeless. What would I do as a single black divorced mother? How would I survive? How would I raise them to not become like me? What was going to happen? I even researched stories about marital and professional success of women raised without fathers. Every hope and dream I had for my daughters went out the window the night I stood over them as their single mother.

As I reflect six years later, that night is not laughable, but memorable. I had reason to fear and be concerned for my daughters’ future. It was not my plan to raise my daughters by myself. But it wasn’t just about raising them, it was about surviving on a single income. How? I had seen two of my closest friends confront this struggle and in my eyes perform flawlessly. Even though throughout the years I saw their tears and listened to their pain, I knew they had so much more strength than I did.

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Achieving Your Destiny – V

Achieving Your Destiny- Part V
By: Mia L. Hazlett
3/10/15

Step IV – Silence

I know when you are working towards your destiny it’s exciting. At least for me it was. If someone got me talking about my book, I would go on and on. The thing was, we weren’t on the same path. At the time I wrote my book, I was unemployed and living (at the beginning of the book, in Texas at my friend’s and then at my parents’ house.) Trust me when I say times were beyond stressful and difficult, but writing was my peace in the torrential hurricane which was my life.

But even though I was so excited about my book, no one else was. I had this little bit of light in my dark tunnel, but everyone had shaped out my priorities for me. As if getting a job and finding my own place for me and my daughters wasn’t a priority. So because of what others had to say about me and my dream, I quit on my dream for a while. I conformed to the little box they lived their lives in and became more miserable.

But a passionate desire to fulfill my destiny could not be stopped. I continued to write my book. This time I did it silently. It was nobody’s business how I made myself happy. I found in my silence, people all of a sudden became interested in my book. They were used to me talking about it and now I had nothing to say. I began to realize, they didn’t care about my actual book, they cared if I had achieved or failed. I remained silent. My achievement or failure was none of their business.

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Achieving Your Destiny – Part IV

Achieving Your Destiny- Part IV
By: Mia L. Hazlett
2/18/15

Step III – Baby Steps

One of my big mistakes in pursuing my dream of becoming a best-selling author, was making Step 1- Write a Book. That’s HUGE. I struggled for months with the feeling that I wasn’t moving ahead. I was moving ahead because I was writing, but when I couldn’t write for whatever reason, I felt like I was failing.

Writing a book is immeasurable until you actually hold the physical book. That could take months, or in my case years.
1. Cut your plan into daily steps.
2. Get out a calendar. Not an electronic calendar, an actually calendar you can physically write on with a pen.
3. Hang this calendar in a place where you will see it every day.

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Achieving Your Destiny: Part III

Achieving Your Destiny: Part III
By: Mia L. Hazlett
2/11/2015

Step II – Write Down Your Fears

I believe the most powerful thing that can happen to you is having your dreams come true. It strengthens your faith and creates a process for achievement at the same time. But I think many people struggle with their dreams when they face rejection or when facing stillness. If they don’t get the job or go on the second date, that’s it!! They’re not going on another interview or dating anymore. Or if they’ve done what they need to do, hearing nothing is the worst thing. There is some saying about patience being a virtue.

This is why it is just as important to write down your fears. Number one it’s okay to be scared and two it allows you to figure out how you are going to overcome your obstacles. If you operate with an arrogance that achieving your dreams is going to be easy and without obstacles, you are going to take the hardest fall when faced with adversity.

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Achieving Your Dreams: Part III

Achieving Your Destiny: Part III
By: Mia L. Hazlett
1/26/15

Step II – Expect the Devil to Crash Your Party

When you pursue your dreams and trust in God, Satan gets angry. He wants your dreams to fail. But if you believe your dream will come with no adversity just because you pray, you are a fool. I believe that is why many people give up on their dreams. Instead of treating God as God, they treat him like a magic genie. They want to dream, snap their fingers, and *POOF*, they are living their dream. Good luck with that.

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Birds of a Feather…

By: Mia L. Hazlett
11/6/14

flock of migrating canada geese birdsThere’s this woman I know.  We’ve been through it all together.  I believe that is the reason God has not only put her in my life, but has kept her in my life for over 20 years.  We’ve walked in each other’s shoes.  Our lives are so similar, it’s scary.

Over the past two days our lives have been turned upside down.  Not because a mutual event has rocked us, but because somehow we are both dealing with circumstances beyond our control.

We are two amazing women who fell in love, got married and started families.  I’m not saying it was in that exact order, but you get the point.  Unfortunately, somewhere along the line, the love and marriage fell off, but our children remained.

We were suddenly thrust into the role of raising our children by ourselves.   Continue reading Birds of a Feather…