By: Mia L. Hazlett
That’s right, I’m done with the Jesus thing. I haven’t done a very good job with it, so I’m through with thinking I can change all things and have complete control of everything and anyone that comes into my life, so I’m not going to waste any of my time or energy trying to change the impossible.
I would love to turn water into wine. It hasn’t happened. I just look crazy and end up disappointed. Apparently, I have not been blessed with that special ability. In accepting that I will have to pay for wine, I’ve also accepted I can’t change people, only myself. I spoke the other night to one of my BFF’s friends. He was having relationship issues, so he unloaded his problem and sought advice to his situation. He is a preacher who puts God first always. Over the past six months, Sunday was the day he and his girlfriend shared to worship God together. She considered it their day. He considered it a day he spent at church worshiping God. This particular Sunday, he decided to bring in a friend who was in need of a church home. He had spoken to him over the past few weeks and his friend was on the verge of suicide. He informed his girlfriend his friend was joining them and she was upset that he invited someone to church without informing her first.
It seemed odd to me this woman who knew she was dating a preacher, was somehow upset he would bring someone in need of a church home to church. He added a few other things he thought had changed about her over their relationship for the better, but was hoping she would continue to change in his favor.
The thing is, there are core behaviors in people, which form their character. When we get to thinking we can change these behaviors and attempt to form them to the mold of the person we want them to be, we are trying to play God. We put so much effort into changing that person, just so we won’t be alone, that in the months or maybe even years we put into changing the wrong person for us, we could have found the right one.
Know who you are and who you want in your life and you will attract them. If the wrong person comes first, know they are just that, the wrong person. Don’t waste your time or theirs trying to change them. If you want wine, seek wine. Don’t try to be Jesus and take some water and perform a miracle. It’s not going to happen.