I was one of those women.
Let me start by saying you should get as good as you give. The love and support you give should be reciprocated.
If you work hard to take care of your family, your partner should do the same.
Asking for what you want is not nagging. Rejecting anything less than you deserve is not you being unrealistic or demanding.
When two people decide to come together to raise a family both parties should be there to love and support each other and the children. To raise the children together with a set of morals and values shared by the two of you.
If that is not what is going on in your house (for the most part) question it.
If your you have a daughter, they are watching you. They are learning from you what they should expect from a partner, and how to react to bad treatment.
If you have a son they are learning from you how a woman expects to be treated, and what not to do.
I tell you this, while at the same time reminding myself.